It Takes Two to Tango…

Got this from my friend Burn Melen­drez. Mag­a­l­ing na bata to si Burn kse marunong magma­hal. I think I know who she is Burn, but I may be wrong, so just cor­rect me. hahaha. I made some lib­er­ties in edit­ing some parts of this…

It Takes Two to Tango
by Burn Melendrez

It takes two to tango…

It’s such an old cliche. It’s used over and over again that it has lost its nov­elty. But the rea­son why it became such is because there is so much truth to it.

It takes two to tango.

There are twists and turns, push and pulls, fast and slow move­ments. But in all these, the two dancers never let go of each other. They may for a while, but their hands and body are to meet again.

It takes two to tango.

The gen­tle­man will lead, the lady will fol­low. The gen­tle­man will advance, the lady will sup­port that advance­ment. They help each other in per­fect­ing the dance. The gen­tle­man will not leave the lady to fig­ure out what she’s going to do next. He’s going to hold her hands and guide her body. She, on the other hand, will not make it hard for the man. She will let her body fol­low. She will allow him to lead. They both want to dance.

It takes two to tango.

The first step in tango is when the man reaches for the woman’s hand. The woman will grace­fully give her hand. The dance begins.

It takes two to tango.

But even with two great dancers, the dance will not be per­fect on the first try. They need to prac­tice and dance with each other some more in order to get a good sense of how each other dances. And this would only hap­pen if each one is will­ing to take time to prac­tice with the other. One can­not learn about the moves of the other by just look­ing from afar. She has to be there danc­ing with him. He has to be there feel­ing her breath. Their hands must join to fully know each other. In doing this, they get to know each other. Then they dance better.

It takes two to tango.

When two peo­ple dance together, they should let their ego bound­aries col­lapse. That way, they will not be afraid to hold each other’s hands, each other’s bod­ies. With their ego bound­aries down, they dis­cover each other. They don’t hold back. Two become one. But once one’s ego bound­ary is up, once pride is not put on hold, the dance is reduced to mere steps that mim­ick the soul­ful move­ment of two peo­ple mov­ing with the music. Or worse, they stop altogether.

It takes two to tango.

They don’t do it for the audi­ence. They do it for them­selves. They don’t need approval from those around them for they move with each other, for each other. They are not danc­ing with the audi­ence. It’s a give-and-take between the two of them. What the audi­ence gets is but a mere reflec­tion of what the two dancers really have between them.

It takes two to tango.

He leads, she fol­lows. He offers, she accepts. He advances, she meets him.. Or some­times, it is the other way around. She leads, he fol­lows. She offers, he accepts. She advances, he meets her.

It takes two to tango.

It takes two to love…