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8 Steps To A More Satisfying Life

5 September 2008 2 Comments

Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychologist of the University of California suggests these eight practical things to a more satisfying life—or at least to give you a temporary boost. This is based on research by her and others. If you have time, you might want to check out your archives of Time Magazine (January 17, 2005 issue), for their issue on Happiness.

1. Count your blessings.

One way to do this is with a “gratitude journal” in which you write down three to ?ve things for which you are currently thankful—from the mundane (your peonies are in bloom) to the magni?cent (a child’s ?rst steps). Do this once a week, say, on Sunday night. Keep it fresh by varying your entries as much as possible.

2. Practice acts of kindness.

These should be both random (let that harried mom go ahead of you in the checkout line) and systematic (bring Sunday supper to an elderly neighbor). Being kind to others, whether friends or strangers, triggers a cascade of positive effects—it makes you feel generous and capable, gives you a greater sense of connection with others and wins you smiles, approval and reciprocated kindness—all happiness boosters.

3. Savor life’s joys.

Pay close attention to momentary pleasures and wonders. Focus on the sweetness of a ripe strawberry or the warmth of the sun when you step out from the shade. Some psychologists suggest taking “mental photographs” of pleasurable moments to reviewing less happy times.

4. Thank a mentor.

If there’s someone whom you owe a debt of gratitude for guiding you at one of life’s crossroads, don’t wait to express your appreciation—in detail and, if possible, in person.

5. Learn to forgive.

Let go of anger and resentment by writing a letter of forgiveness to a person who has hurt or wronged you. Inability to forgive is associated with persistent rumination or dwelling on revenge, while forgiving allows you to move on.

6. Invest time and energy in friends and family.

Where you live, how much money you make, your job title and even your health have surprisingly small effects on your satisfaction with life. The biggest factor appears to be strong personal relationships.

7. Take care of your body.

Getting plenty of sleep, exercising, stretching, smiling and laughing can all enhance
your mood in the short term. Practiced regularly, they can help make your daily life more satisfying.

8. Develop strategies for coping with stress and hardships.

There is no avoiding hard times. Religious faith has been shown to help people cope, but so do the secular beliefs enshrined in axioms like “This too shall pass” and “That which doesn’t kill me makes me stronger. ”The trick is that you have to believe them.

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2 Comments »

  • Shalum said:

    In sum, to be satisfied- we have to be grateful for everything in our lives. And in order to be grateful, we need to know our one Provider. It all goes back to Him.

    Nice :)

  • -Ang Peregrino- (author) said:

    Yup, you’re right.

    Happiness is a state of mind, and is largely dependent on things you can control and you have power over.

    And yet being happy is also about being grateful– largely for things you receive not out of your merit but because there are people who love and a Provider who gives in freedom.

    Thanks for the comment! :-)

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