Are You In The Right Job?
A friend of mine have apparently been reading my posts on discernment and decision making the past weeks. He asked me over the weekend if he was meant to be in his job. We had a longish conversation afterwards and we made several discoveries. These I will discuss in more detail here.
First of all, let me say that I think it’s a human thing to ask whether we are meant to be doing something, or meant to be with someone. It’s something very human to look for some kind of finality and oughtness and meaning in things. It assures us not only that we are doing things right but that we are doing the right things.
Click to continue reading Are You In The Right Job?Happy Fiesta, CDO!
Today is the feastday of Cagayan de Oro City, where I grew up. I lived there until I transferred here in Manila after high school. Here is a rundown of posts I have written that has some connection to my City.
Click to continue reading Happy Fiesta, CDO!A Gray Colored World
At a certain point in our lives, we realize that we are not kids anymore: we get hurt and we feel pain but nobody comes to comfort us and blow away at the wound. We cry and the world does not stop—it just continues without breaking stride.
We can fight this loss and remain indignant— remain a brat and act as if the world owes us something. Or we can embrace the bare facts of life: that pain is part of life, just as joy is part of it; that the world can be unfair, but there is good in the world; that friends can hurt you but it doesn’t mean you’re enemies for life; that we are responsible for what we do no matter how we feel; that love can remain long after the feeling is gone; that it is ok to make mistakes. Mistakes are made without our meaning to— whoever wanted to be a mistake-maker— but the fact remains, mistakes are made. We try to minimize them, but they are made. No mistake is so great that we could not live it down. And no real success in the world happened without some kind of failure before that.
Click to continue reading A Gray Colored WorldSteps in Decision Making
This week, we will be talking about the actual steps in making decisions. While these are not foolproof, you are assured of making an informed decision when you follow these steps. Remember, intuition comes in all steps of this decision-making process. It is important to allow your gut feel to guide you as well.
Click to continue reading Steps in Decision MakingNight Out Permission Slip
Here is something for the girls and guys who are in relationships out there. Personally, I’d hate to be in a relationship where I’d have to fill this out every time I go out. But this is really just a metaphorical form for what some guys have to go through when the girlfriend or wife gets angry (or acts like she is) because the guy wants to go out with the rest of the boys. I’d like to think that this is the thought process of women. So guys, be prepared to answer!
Click to continue reading Night Out Permission SlipHoning Your Intuition (So You Can Make Better Decisions)
If you’ve ever said, “I just knew it was a good thing” or “I can not explain why, but I just had to do it” or “It just felt right” or “I had a really bad feeling about it”, then you’ve experienced what some people would call “intuition” or “gut feel”.
It’s that primary, basic, instinctive system meant to keep us out of harm’s way, even protecting us from accidents, or from marrying the wrong person. We’ve heard stories of people deciding at the last minute to cancel their flights on airplanes that eventually crash, or making choices that years down the line make perfect sense even when they didn’t when they first made it. Our gut instinct allow us to “know” more than we can ever explain logically.
Click to continue reading Honing Your Intuition (So You Can Make Better Decisions)Notes on Decision Making
Last week, we talked about Discernment and how it is about honing a gut feel of what is right and wrong. Two weeks from now, I am going to talk about HOW to hone this gut feel exactly. After that I am going to discuss specific steps to make well-discerned decisions. For today’s post however, let’s just step back and talk about Decision Making in general. Let this be Decision Making 101.
Click to continue reading Notes on Decision MakingLiving in the Tensions 2: On Discernment
Last week, I talked about Living in the Tensions in terms of accepting the paradoxes of life. This week, let’s talk about living in the tensions in terms of it being a prerequisite for discernment.
St. Ignatius of Loyola has another word for living in the tensions: indifference. He said that we should be able to to hold ourselves in balance: not putting ourselves in one or the other choice or extreme. In fact, God’s will is said to be found in the tensions.
Click to continue reading Living in the Tensions 2: On DiscernmentLiving in the Tensions
Last week, I talked about the 20 Things I Learned in Life. I forgot to put in that list one really important lesson I have also learned. It’s good though because then it gives me a chance to talk about that topic today.
This lesson is something I learned in the Novitiate of the Society of Jesus, and it was taught to me/us by the great Fr. Benny Calpotura. He calls it “living in the tensions”. The concept is similar to Parmenides’ Golden Mean (check that out yourself in wikipedia! hehe).
Click to continue reading Living in the Tensions20 Lessons I’ve Learned in Life
Here is a summary of major lessons I’ve learned in my life (so far). I know there should be more but I’m keeping the list to 20 so I don’t tangent to other things.
Read on and leave me a message below if you can relate or if you want to add your own lessons.
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23rd January 2008 
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